Have you figured it out yet?
Yes, these are all signifiers of mother nature's monthly "gift", though answers on a postcard as to who came up with that metaphor - "gift" infers something pleasant and unexpected, but a period is highly unpleasant and anticipated with dread. Sure, I'm not pregnant and I'm pretty pleased about it, but I do now deserve these five days of hell?!
|How I currently look and feel.|
Now, I'm not usually one to moan about being a girl. Regrettably, I can only empty my bladder sitting down and do occasionally wonder what the magical peeing mobility men have is like...but aside from that, the "being female" experience gets a big thumbs UP from me. I love to perpetuate what is my own personal definition of femininity and I love to celebrate other women's, too; but I really, really don't love periods.
For a start, I don't love crazily heightened emotions; I'm impartial to a good weep every now and then, but crying at the mere sight of a baby smiling, a particularly unforgiving hangover or a friend's mildly inspiring story is just a waste of precious mascara! Not to mention the anger; suddenly when your hormones are racing, so is your ability to rage at just about anything. Even the most mild mannered and pleasant of women can experience tinges of unjustified wrath. I would say I've been properly, fist-shaking angry at least three times today. Why? I don't want to tell you. Because my reasons are ridiculous.
When asked how a period physically feels, my friend Becca sombrely replied with "death". Though I can't confirm if that's a truthful account of death itself, I can admit that it is pretty dire. Period pain is not just the occasional twinge in your stomach. It is not something that can be easily cured with your mother's old remedy of "rubbing your tummy and having a poo"; it is a sharp, constant ache in your abdomen that can make any movement painful and render you bed bound. That said, some women claim to never experience period pain as they "exercise regularly". Ignore these women.
Furthermore, periods do not make your hair shine, nails stronger and skin glow like a lighthouse. They do the complete opposite. Obviously I can't speak on the science behind it all, but around this time of the month is when your skin becomes prone to spots the size of mountains popping up all over your face. This grease also appears in your hair. For me, though, the worst part is becoming bloated around the face and belly due to water retention (maybe?? Not sure?), which makes it incredibly hard to have any kind of body confidence - already quite a hard thing to achieve in the slimmer times of the month. Currently, if you lightly slap my belly, it will jiggle around a bit for around a second and a half. This does not ordinarily happen. I am pissed off about it.
Unfortunately, there's a major catch in what I've just described for the menfolk of the universe: you are gleefully free from it all! As well as being able to pee where ever you like (amazing! AMAZING!!) you are more or less consistently of the same mind frame, which must make it difficult to understand life with oestrogen, extraordinarily priced tampons and walking around with a towel between your legs. Here are some wise tips from me - a mere, incredibly hormonal woman; boys, tread carefully, even when she's being irrational. Love patiently, even though she's pretty hard to love when she's constantly screeching at you. Compliment generously, though actually, her bum does look a bit big in that. She might not be great right now, but it's a biological thing; and like Marilyn said, if you can't handle her at her worst, then you don't deserve her when she's back at her bloody fabulous best when this month's episode is all over.